Have you ever felt frustrated when someone said your name wrong? If you answered yes, then you know it is because your name has become your identity and brand.
But, I remember a time when I wanted to change my last name and erase a portion of my past. I like to go by Diana Marie Russo because my father is tied to my last name.
My mom and dad got a divorce when I was two and I can't remember a time when I lived with both parents.
Don't let this blog post fool you, I cherish my family and my mom and sister are two of the most important people in my life.
I debated writing about my dad because I rarely bring any attention to him. I haven't talked to him in over a decade. After he wrote a letter to my mom (that we still have) and said he wanted to halt visitation with his kids, I reconsidered how I wanted to be represented.
So why did I choose to write an entire blog post about a stranger who I refer to as 'dad?' Because I wouldn't be who I am today without him.
My dad was never around and I am not sure he had much influence on me when I did see him. My memories with him are vague. But, he taught me invaluable skills because of his absence. And I thank him for that.
I grew up fast because my dad wasn't around but I quickly learned how to work hard and never give up. I credit my independence and strong personality to my dad. I grew up watching an incredible woman find success and happiness in all areas of her life. If my dad was around, I am not sure I would have witnessed an incredible woman, who I call mom, prosper on her own.
This taught me about life and helped create who I am today. My blog wouldn't be complete if I never shared this memory that was so influential.
Russo will be a part of my life for many years to come, but it carries a weight with it that means strength, integrity and resilience.